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Odd Jobs

Posted on August 1st, 2011 by Anna in Books, Resources
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So you’re looking into colleges, trying to decide where you want to go. But do you know what you want to do with your life? Do you have a career in mind? Or are you going into college “undecided”?

Whether you know exactly what you want to do, or you haven’t the faintest idea, check out the book display in the Copley Teen Room to help give you some ideas, or just have fun reading about the other things you could choose to do.  Or not do.

Have you ever wanted to be a spy when you grew up? We’ve got the handbook! Wondered what it’s like for Duane “Dog” Chapman to be the bounty hunter he is? His memoir is on our shelf. We have books on all kinds of jobs from being a chef to careers with dogs to the person in charge of keeping the Stanley Cup, and the funeral parlor cosmetologist.  Hey, someone’s got to make you look pretty when the time comes. Right?

Ever wonder who makes all the sound effects for movies? That would be the foley artist.

What about becoming an oyster shucker? “How many oysters can an oyster shucker shuck if an oyster shucker shucks oysters all day?” – Odd Jobs

Or an odor judge? Training for this job takes a year, and from then on you need to be tested monthly, to make sure you’re still good for the job.

Check out our display and see all the odd, and interesting jobs you could do when you graduate! I garuntee there’s something for everyone!

Teen Dating Violence: What is Love?

Posted on July 20th, 2011 by Anna in Resources
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There are a lot of things love is. And there are a lot of things love isn’t. But when you first meet someone who turns you all mushy inside, how do you know if it’s love or not? Here is a comparative list of what love is and what it  isn’t, courtesy of the Melrose Alliance Against Violence (www.maav.org).

Love is…

  • Responsibility
  • Hard Work
  • Pleasure
  • Commitment
  • Caring
  • Honesty
  • Sex
  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Sharing
  • Compromising
  • Closeness
  • Recognizing Differences
  • Vulnerability
  • Openness
  • Respect
  • Friendship
  • Strong Feelings

Love isn’t…

  • Jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Pain
  • Violence
  • Sex
  • Obsession
  • Being Selfish
  • Cruelty
  • Getting Pregnant
  • Making Someone Pregnant
  • Dependency
  • Giving Up Yourself
  • Intimidation
  • Scoring
  • Fear
  • Proving Yourself
  • Manipulation
  • Expecting All Your Needs To Be Met

Love can be so many things, but if the words in the second list match your relationship more than those in the first, no matter what your gender, it’s time to get out! Tell someone you can trust, a friend or family member that something wrong is going on, and make sure you have a safe place to go. Should you need to, call the police. They exist to help you, no matter what your situation, no matter who you are. That’s their job.

Want more info on Teen Dating Violence? Check out Melrose Alliance Against Violence at www.maav.org or check back here for more posts in the coming weeks.

Professional Team Sports and the LGBTQ Community

Posted on May 16th, 2011 by Anna in Resources
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What do these two things have in common?

Do I hear birds chirping outside? Does anyone have an answer?

That’s because there is nothing in common between the LGBTQ community and professional team sports.

It’s a rather sad fact that most people who consider themselves LGBTQ don’t think they can play professional sports, whether it’s hockey, baseball, football, basketball, or anything else out there because men’s sports tend to be a very homophobic area to work in.

But today, one very important man took the initial step to change all that. The Phoenix Suns’ president, Rick Welts, came out to the world as a gay man.

For decades, Rick Welts has kept one of the most important parts of his life secret from the rest of the world, having to deal with the death of a longtime partner, Arnie, alone in 1994, as well as other things.

“In these meetings and in interviews with The New York Times, Mr. Welts explained that he wants to pierce the silence that envelops the subject of homosexuality in men’s team sports. He wants to be a mentor to gay people who harbor doubts about a sports career, whether on the court or in the front office. Most of all, he wants to feel whole, authentic.” -NYT 

But, as Eric Freeman, writer of the Yahoo! Sports Blog, said, “… the boardroom isn’t the locker room, and progress in one doesn’t always lead to broadened horizons in another. David Stern accepting a gay friend does not mean that a group of 15 players would be totally cool with one openly gay teammate. That time will come, but it’s not necessarily right around the corner.

Nevertheless, instances of improved social equality should be celebrated no matter how minor the advances may be. Welts has made history, and we should applaud him for it.”

Rick Welts’ actions may be minor in the scope of the planet, but for him and the NBA specifically, his words are a major deal. Congratulations are in order as he had the courage to say something even after all his decades alone. With hope, more people will have the courage to come out of the proverbial closet as well, and others will stand beside them and give them full support.

The initial article that ran in the New York Times can be found here: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/16/sports/basketball/nba-executive-says-he-is-gay.html?_r=1&src=tptw&pagewanted=all

The Yahoo! sports blog can be found here: http://sports.yahoo.com/nba/blog/ball_dont_lie/post/Suns-president-Rick-Welts-tells-The-New-York-Tim?urn=nba-wp3254

LGBTQ support groups:

www.glsen.org

www.bagly.org

www.thetrevorproject.org

Facebook Security Risks!

Posted on March 18th, 2011 by Anna in Resources
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Many thousands of people use Facebook every day. Look at the websites you visit, and I’m sure it’s one of them. But, did you know it’s a piece of cake for someone to get your personal information from you to use against you? All they have to do is ask simple questions, or pose as your friend to find out what the password is to your bank account. Crooks understand that most people use the same password for everything. Find out one important thing about you, and they’re golden.

An article recently posted online lists the few basic ways your information can be stolen right out from under your nose. In fact, most of the time, YOU’RE the one giving the information to the crooks, through your own keystrokes! Here’s the list of things to watch out for:

1. Who knows you best?

The message reads:

Can you do this? My middle name __________, my age ___, my favorite soda _______, my birthday ___/___/___, whose the love of my life ______, my best friend _____, my favorite color ______, my eye color _______, my hair color ______ my favorite food ________ and my mom’s name __________. Put this as your status and see who knows you best.

How many of these are the same facts your bank asks to verify your identity? Put this as your status and everybody — including all the people who want to hijack your bank account and credit cards — will know you well enough to make a viable attempt.

2. Your friend just answered a question about you!

Was it possible that an old friend answered a question about me that I needed to “unlock?” Absolutely. But when you click on the link, the next screen should give you pause: 21 Questions is requesting permission to … (a) access your name, profile picture, gender, networks, user ID, friends and any other information shared with everyone … (b) send you email … (c) post to your wall … and … (d) access your data any time … regardless of whether or not you’re using their application.

Can you take that access back — ever? It sure doesn’t look like it. There’s no reference to how you can stop them from future access to your data in their “terms and conditions.” Worse, it appears that to “unlock” the answer in your friend’s post, you need to answer a bunch of questions about your other friends and violate their privacy too. …The roughly 850 people who joined “People Who Hate 21 Questions on Facebook” apparently have  and can give you insight into just how pernicious this program can be.

3. LOL. Look at the video I found of you!

This is the most dangerous of all the spam messages and it comes in a variety of forms, says Clare. It’s actually a bid to surreptitiously install malware on your computer. This malware can track your computer keystrokes and record your sign-in and password information with all of your online accounts.

How does it work? When you click on the link, it says that you need to upgrade your video player to see the clip. If you hit the “upgrade” button, it opens your computer to the crooks, who ship in their software. You may be completely unaware of it until you start seeing strange charges hit your credit cards or bank account. Up-to-date security software should stop the download. If you don’t have that, watch out.

Better yet, if you really think some friend is sending you a video clip, double-check with the friend to be sure before you click on the link. When I messaged my high-school classmate to ask if she’d really sent this, she was horrified. Her Facebook account had been hijacked and anyone who clicked through was likely to have their account hijacked too. That’s how this virus spreads virally.

4. We’re stuck!

It started out as an email scam, but now the “We’re stuck in and need money” scam has moved to instant messages on Facebook, where it can be more effective. Most people have learned not to react to the email, but instant messages help crooks by forcing you to react emotionally — They’re right there. They need help, now. A friend got one of these messages last week from the parents of a close friend. Her reaction was the perfect way to deal with it: She immediately called her friend and said “Have you talked to your parents lately?” The response: “Yeah. They’re right here.”

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Facebook has launched a security system to combat account hijacking that allows crooks to send messages and posts through your account. You can get updates on what they’re doing at Facebook’s security page, where they’ve also got a nice little security quiz that’s definitely worth taking.

This list is by Kathy Kristof, and originally posted on www.yahoo.com.
 

All in all, BE CAREFUL with the information you give out, no matter who you think you’re giving it to, and always check in with people you know who’ve sent you something suspicious or odd.

Cyber Bullying

Posted on February 10th, 2011 by Anna in Resources
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Bullying, whether in the real, or online, is never fun. I’m sure you’ve all been a part of it, whether it happened to you, you were the one doing the bullying, or you were a witness.

But, when it happens, what should you do? Here are a few tips to help you.

  • If you’re getting messages on your facebook page or on your voicemail, don’t delete them. I know you want to get rid of them, erase them from your memory, but those are evidence that will prove you have been bullied. And you will need that evidence if you want the bullying to stop.
  • Don’t hate back. Sure, it seems like the best thing you can do is to shout back, or post a nasty response, but that will only make things worse. Bullies are only looking to rile you up, and if they see that they’re getting to you, they’ll only bully you even more. If they’re not making a dent in your shield, if you don’t show them that their words are hurting you, they are less likely to continue.
  • Get help. Talk to a teacher, your councilor or a parent. Tell them what’s going on, and see if they can help you. There are some people who believe bullying is just “kids being kids” and ignore it. Those people can be teachers, principals, and even parents. But that’s NOT true. Bullying hurts, and it shouldn’t continue. Make sure they know that. Bullying affects people of all races, genders, sexual identities, ages, and bubble gum preferences. If you need further help, and you live in Boston, there are trained public health professionals from the Boston Public Health Commission staffing the city’s Anti-Cyber Bullying Hotline – 617-534-5050.  If you’re not in Boston, check with your local school or town to see if they have something similar. Even if you have to call a group from a neighboring town, it will be worth it.
  • Hang in there. Remind yourself that you’re the better person, for sticking up for yourself, even if you have to get help. Getting help is not a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of strength. Not losing your cool and shouting back is a sign of strength. Keep that strength and you’ll be fine.

If you are a witness to bullying, whether it’s online or in the real, don’t just stand there and let it happen. That makes you a bully too. If you’ve been bullied before, you know what it feels like to have five kids stand around and do nothing. Their silence tells you they’re siding with the bully. So, stand up for your friends, even those you rarely talk to. That quiet kid who always sits in the back row… has he ever done anything to you that would have you LET him get bullied? I doubt it. Stand up for him. Get help. Find a teacher, talk to your parents, or call the hotline number mentioned above. That’s the best way to gain more friends too, and one can never have too many friends. Right?

Boston’s Anti-Cyber Bullying Hotline: 617-534-5050.

“We handle each case objectively without presupposition regardless of race, color, creed, or bubble gum flavor.” -Gil Grissom from CSI “Pilot” Season 1.