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Valentine’s Day

Posted on February 8th, 2016 by Anna in Teen Services

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Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the United States, Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. Historians believe that Americans didn’t start celebrating the holiday until the early 1700’s. The first mass-produced valentines were made in the 1840’s by Esther Howland, known as the “Mother of the Valentine”. Today, over 1 billion Valentine’s Day greeting cards are sold each year, second only to Christmas cards (2.5 billion Christmas Cards sell every year.).

So, how did this holiday come to be? Actually, there is no one story about Saint Valentine.

One version tells of a priest living in Rome during the third century. The priest continued to hold weddings after the emperor decided that single men made for better soldiers and outlawed marriage. Valentine’s actions were eventually discovered and the emperor called for his death.

A second version says that Valentine was killed for helping Christians escape Roman prisons. He fell in love with the jailor’s daughter, writing her a note that was signed “from your Valentine”, a phrase that is still used today.

Join us in Teen Central for a Valentine’s Day Party on February 11th from 4-7pm. Dress up or down. There will be photo booths, dance competitions, and prizes! This party was organized by teens for teens, so don’t miss out!

 

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Looking for books to help celebrate your Valentine’s Day?

Check out our list, here, for everything from dating advice to the story of chocolate and a wide variety of teen romance novels.

 

 

 

 

 

Teen Dating Violence: What is Love?

Posted on July 20th, 2011 by Anna in Resources

There are a lot of things love is. And there are a lot of things love isn’t. But when you first meet someone who turns you all mushy inside, how do you know if it’s love or not? Here is a comparative list of what love is and what it  isn’t, courtesy of the Melrose Alliance Against Violence (www.maav.org).

Love is…

  • Responsibility
  • Hard Work
  • Pleasure
  • Commitment
  • Caring
  • Honesty
  • Sex
  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Sharing
  • Compromising
  • Closeness
  • Recognizing Differences
  • Vulnerability
  • Openness
  • Respect
  • Friendship
  • Strong Feelings

Love isn’t…

  • Jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Pain
  • Violence
  • Sex
  • Obsession
  • Being Selfish
  • Cruelty
  • Getting Pregnant
  • Making Someone Pregnant
  • Dependency
  • Giving Up Yourself
  • Intimidation
  • Scoring
  • Fear
  • Proving Yourself
  • Manipulation
  • Expecting All Your Needs To Be Met

Love can be so many things, but if the words in the second list match your relationship more than those in the first, no matter what your gender, it’s time to get out! Tell someone you can trust, a friend or family member that something wrong is going on, and make sure you have a safe place to go. Should you need to, call the police. They exist to help you, no matter what your situation, no matter who you are. That’s their job.

Want more info on Teen Dating Violence? Check out Melrose Alliance Against Violence at www.maav.org or check back here for more posts in the coming weeks.