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Teen Dating Violence: What is Love?

Posted on July 20th, 2011 by Anna in Resources

There are a lot of things love is. And there are a lot of things love isn’t. But when you first meet someone who turns you all mushy inside, how do you know if it’s love or not? Here is a comparative list of what love is and what it  isn’t, courtesy of the Melrose Alliance Against Violence (www.maav.org).

Love is…

  • Responsibility
  • Hard Work
  • Pleasure
  • Commitment
  • Caring
  • Honesty
  • Sex
  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Sharing
  • Compromising
  • Closeness
  • Recognizing Differences
  • Vulnerability
  • Openness
  • Respect
  • Friendship
  • Strong Feelings

Love isn’t…

  • Jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Pain
  • Violence
  • Sex
  • Obsession
  • Being Selfish
  • Cruelty
  • Getting Pregnant
  • Making Someone Pregnant
  • Dependency
  • Giving Up Yourself
  • Intimidation
  • Scoring
  • Fear
  • Proving Yourself
  • Manipulation
  • Expecting All Your Needs To Be Met

Love can be so many things, but if the words in the second list match your relationship more than those in the first, no matter what your gender, it’s time to get out! Tell someone you can trust, a friend or family member that something wrong is going on, and make sure you have a safe place to go. Should you need to, call the police. They exist to help you, no matter what your situation, no matter who you are. That’s their job.

Want more info on Teen Dating Violence? Check out Melrose Alliance Against Violence at www.maav.org or check back here for more posts in the coming weeks.

Listen to the voices behind the wall

Posted on May 7th, 2010 by ccheever@private.bpl.org in Resources

The Teen room of the Mattapan branch is proud to announce a new display: “Messages from the Prisons”. As part of on-going violence prevention efforts, this display presents a collection of letters from people from the community who are currently incarcerated, or have been recently released along side some selected books from the library’s collection. Here are some choice quotes:

“The choices we make today can affect who you are and how you feel tomorrow.”

“The bottom line is that the war going on in our neighborhoods needs to stop. And why not start with you? The choices you make today can affect how you feel tomorrow. You know the difference between right and wrong. So make the right choices?”

“Ask anybody upstate how much ‘getting it’ got them. Five, ten, twenty years, natural life. It that’s what you want, go on.”

Want to get reconnected with someone in prison you’ve lost touch with? A friend, cousin, father, anyone? Leave a comment to this blog post of who you are looking for and your relation and we’ll work to help reconnect you.